Jesse Budd had prove us the reasons of un-illegal relationship between men and women. He brought us to see the psychology of men and women. Women may say yes, cause they have no feeling towards his guy friends, but what about the guys? At the end of the discussion, all the respondent said no - because thats the real answer. im not going to babbling about this issue ~ just watch this movie and conclude it for yourself.
maybe you can see this - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
The only solution is back to the quran ~
what is the legal relationship between men and women ( other than get married) ? there is certain part of our life that we need each other. we can classified it into 4 main points :
1- studying (male teacher n female student or vice versa)
2- selling n buying ( seller n customer)
3- medical needs (doctor n patient)
4- amar ma'ruf nahi mungkar
i would like to discuss about the 4th point, amar maruf nahi mungkar. what is the definition of amar maruf nahi mungkar? when you are connecting with the other gender, is it circling only on amar maruf nahi mungkar? ~ find it yourself! here, i brought the opinion of Imam Hanafi who take the usulfiqh of "the origin of everything is haram, until come dalil to allow it". From his side, the relationship between men and women is actually prohibited (haram), if and only if proven with dalil to allow it, they can be connected. so, you can think on your own, the awlawiyat of connecting with verses gender and it limitation. The young daei must hold on the right pillar.
Im asking to myself and you, are we going to beat the rule of islam in the stand of amar maruf nahi mungkar? i know, not all daei do like this - then take this as a reminder to pevent yourself from any evil things. we must remember that we live at the last age of life, as we know, there is a lof of fitnah spreading in our life. please, save ourself from become a part of fitnah. amin. insayAllah ~ life is easy when you live in islamic way of life because islam is easy~
~ as my naqib said, this relationship is flexible. is it true?~